I feel so blessed to live in the United States. But the culture is changing and everything that seemed solid is now liquid and upside down is right side up. So...I have decided to read and teach myself about the founding of this country. I am starting with the Declaration of Independence. First, it is a separate document than the Constitution.
"When in the Course of human events it becomes necessary for one people to
dissolve the political bands which have connected them with another and
to assume among the powers of the earth, the separate and equal station
to which the Laws of Nature and of Nature's God entitle them, a decent
respect to the opinions of mankind requires that they should declare the
causes which impel them to the separation."
This is from www.ushistory.org.
So what does this paragraph tell me? This wasn't a situation that happened quickly. It was a course or a process. There were events that occurred to drive people to want a change. There was a political connection that was felt. There was a desire to be separate and equal as a country. The laws of nature do not obey geographic boundaries and neither does God. It is respectful to tell the other country WHY you want to separate.
It seems even from this first paragraph that there is a sense of not feeling heard. The tone in the letter (?) doesn't seem angry or frustrated. It seems as if there was a desire to be pleasant. (Maybe like when you break up with someone and you say, "let's still be friends"). When I walked through my divorce, I strove to be sure to separate the behavior that I didn't like from the person. Through the power of prayer, we managed to part ways without hating each other. Being vicious and negative wasn't going to change the situation. Choosing to honor God even in a difficult place has lead to where co-parenting is easy (most of the time).